"You just need a few minutes a day." I often say this about using Third Way methods with young children. But that's not exactly it either. After all, I know that for many families, even just a few minutes a day of something new is impossible to imagine. But this approach is not about finding 20 minutes, or even 10, to do yet one more thing with your child. It is more about how to use the many daily little interactions and routines in new and very specific ways.
I will say one thing though, to work with children this way, it is necessary to find small amounts of time with your child when you are not rushed, not doing one thing, and simultaneously thinking about what needs to happen next. At least a few minutes a day, when the pace changes and the focus is on exactly what you are both doing in that moment. That ability to slow down and focus is after all one of the key skills that young children need to practice. Slow down, examine what is in front of you, and talk about it. This way of thinking can be for just 5 minutes, or even 3. That's OK; the power is in coming back to the space again and again. This can happen looking at a picture book, playing with simple toys or household objects, taking off coats and boots, riding in the elevator, walking to the corner, putting away toys, sorting laundry (one of my personal favorites), standing in line, and, of course, playing games, when and if you have time.
The power is in the pace, the talk, and the repetition. Look for small moments for simple games, empty times, and conversations.
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